We are taught that "the one" is the ultimate goal of romance. However, evolutionary psychology and neuroscience tell a different story. If you've ever felt the itch for someone new or struggled with the monotony of a long-term relationship, it’s not a moral failing—it’s your genetic programming at work.

Strategic Pluralism: The Genetic Survival Strategy According to the theory of 'Strategic Pluralism,' humans evolved to balance two different mating strategies: long-term pair bonding for stability and short-term mating for genetic diversity. From an evolutionary standpoint, seeking multiple partners allowed our ancestors to ensure a wider variety of genetic traits in their offspring. Your brain is hardwired to seek 'the best' genes, and sometimes, that means looking beyond a single partner.

Sperm Competition and Female Choice Historical evidence and 'Sperm Competition Theory' suggest that females have long played an active role in selecting superior genetics by engaging with multiple partners. This biological reality challenges the traditional view of passive monogamy. In modern terms, 'free-choice' or exploring multiple options is a way to reclaim your power as a selective "predator" in the dating market, ensuring you don't settle for mediocre genetics.

The Dopamine Loop vs. Oxytocin Boredom Long-term relationships increase oxytocin, the bonding hormone, which provides comfort but often kills the thrill. On the other hand, new encounters trigger a massive dopamine explosion. This dopamine keeps your brain young, alert, and vibrant. By sticking strictly to one person out of a sense of "intellectual duty," you are essentially starving your brain's reward system.

Conclusion: High Intelligence Means High Variety Clinging to monogamy out of fear or social pressure is a low-intelligence strategy that ignores your biological potential. To be a true 'dating predator,' you must understand that having 'backups' or a 'pool' of options isn't just about fun—it's about emotional insurance and genetic dominance. Stop living by the rules of the past and start living by the rules of your DNA.

Action Plan: Stop feeling guilty for your natural desires. This weekend, break your routine. Meet three new people, flirt without boundaries, and observe how your energy levels skyrocket when you stop suppressing your instincts.

from; Verywell Mind   Psychology Today